How Do You Complete This Step ? Reveal your most distressing and tormenting memories to another person—most likely your sponsor. Be as honest as possible with that person and look at who you are and who you would like to become. Be vulnerable and don’t hold back. Accept advice from that person with an open mind.
So what I learned is that the ” exact nature of my wrongs ” involved the actual action, the basic need that had been affected and the instinct gone out of bounds (AKA: my defect of character). I’ll give you an example: it’s not enough to say that I held a grudge against someone who gave me a poor work evaluation.
God save me from being angry. Thy will be done”. Pg. 68 FEAR – We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would have us be.
What are the principles for choosing the person or persons to take step 5 with? Process: What do you take to be the instructions for the Step 5 itself? Step 5 should last 2-3 hours: it is about the exact nature of our wrongs, not a catalogue either of the wrongs done to us or the wrongs we have done to others.
The instructions in the Big Book suggest that after doing their 5th Step a person goes home (or someplace quiet) and sits for an hour(ish) and reviews the step work that they’ve done so far, to make certain they’ve been thorough and to check and be sure they haven’t skipped anything or held anything back.
Step 5 : Admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. What an order! Admitting wrongs to God and to ourselves is one thing. To actually tell someone else the exact nature of our wrongs can be a frightening task indeed.
What reservations do I have about working step five? I fear misunderstanding and miscommunication on the matters of my addiction, my Higher Power and my cowardice. I fear judgment and confusion. I don’t feel entirely understood and I fear losing trust or respect.
Step 6 requires participants to become willing to look at their negative qualities and ask their higher power to help them change. This step can be challenging because it requires the alcoholic to face his own imperfections, including behaviors he may be deeply ashamed of.
Twelve Step Prayers First Step Prayer. Dear Lord , I admit that I am powerless over my addiction. Second Step Prayer. Heavenly Father , I know in my heart that only you can restore me to sanity. Third Step Prayer. God , I offer myself to Thee. Fourth Step Prayer. Dear God , Fifth Step Prayer. Higher Power, Sixth Step Prayer. Dear God ,
God, grant me the serenity. To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
The Ninth Step Promises We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
The 5th Step – “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”
So Step Six—“Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character”—is A.A.’s way of stating the best possible attitude one can take in order to make a beginning on this lifetime job. This does not mean that we expect all our character defects to be lifted out of us as the drive to drink was.
The purpose of Step 4, “made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves”, is to begin to determine the root cause of one’s drinking, identify any weaknesses that may have contributed to alcoholism, and understand personal strengths that can help support the person with their self- discovery and recovery in