How Do You Complete This Step ? Reveal your most distressing and tormenting memories to another person—most likely your sponsor. Be as honest as possible with that person and look at who you are and who you would like to become. Be vulnerable and don’t hold back. Accept advice from that person with an open mind.
What are the principles for choosing the person or persons to take step 5 with? Process: What do you take to be the instructions for the Step 5 itself? Step 5 should last 2-3 hours: it is about the exact nature of our wrongs, not a catalogue either of the wrongs done to us or the wrongs we have done to others.
God save me from being angry. Thy will be done”. Pg. 68 FEAR – We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would have us be.
So what I learned is that the ” exact nature of my wrongs ” involved the actual action, the basic need that had been affected and the instinct gone out of bounds (AKA: my defect of character). I’ll give you an example: it’s not enough to say that I held a grudge against someone who gave me a poor work evaluation.
Step Five. “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” ALL of A.A.’s Twelve Steps ask us to go contrary to our. natural desires … they all deflate our egos.
The instructions in the Big Book suggest that after doing their 5th Step a person goes home (or someplace quiet) and sits for an hour(ish) and reviews the step work that they’ve done so far, to make certain they’ve been thorough and to check and be sure they haven’t skipped anything or held anything back.
The 5th Step – “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”
Step 5 : Admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. What an order! Admitting wrongs to God and to ourselves is one thing. To actually tell someone else the exact nature of our wrongs can be a frightening task indeed.
Step 6 requires participants to become willing to look at their negative qualities and ask their higher power to help them change. This step can be challenging because it requires the alcoholic to face his own imperfections, including behaviors he may be deeply ashamed of.
God , grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
The Full Serenity Prayer To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference. Forever and ever in the next.
God, grant me the serenity. To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.